Ms. Kathleen McBee
“A Force To Be Reckoned With”
My memory of Ms. Kathleen is forever in my heart. I meant her on May 19, 2023, I had the pleasure of accompanying her to her doctors appointment along with her Granddaughter and caretaker Wendy Calloway.
Ms. Kathleen hadn’t wanted to go to the doctor and let it be known in her firm , authoritative and “don’t give me no back talk”! voice to Wendy. But Wendy was just as determined and with the most kind and gentle voice told her “ Yes you are going Grandmother”. After finally convincing her we were on our way. It took several hours because of all the tests that needed to be done but we got through it. Just a few weeks prior to that visit Wendy had been trying to get her to go to the hospital and was going to call for EMS to transport her against Ms. Kathleen’s wishes.
Ms. Kathleen told Wendy that she had better “hang that phone up and get somewhere and chill” and Wendy did just that.
Ms. Kathleen let it be known that she was running things, LOL. After getting her back home from her appointment Wendy set out to get her a hotdog with slaw that she wanted and pick up her meds.
At the time I didn’t know I wouldn’t see her again. We had talked about me coming over some mornings sitting out on the porch to visit. When her health deteriorated more recently she ended up in the hospital as a patient. But we could not have been more thrilled when she was released from rehab to come home on August 5th.
I am so very thankful that her great grandson Henry was with her when she died and did all that he could to help her before EMS arrived at her house.
I can’t recall ever witnessing the degree of love and devotion between Ms. Kathleen and Wendy. Making sure that she had meals, taking her to doctors appointments, calling to check in on her, going to get her settled in for the night after working 10 hour shifts are just a few things that Wendy did to try and make her Grandmother’s life more comfortable all of the time.
We don’t have as much control over our lives that we think we do. We’re always putting people and things off as though we control what has already been decreed. Thank you Wendy for giving me the honor of meeting and spending time with your Grandmother. But mostly for being the granddaughter that you were to her. We will miss her.
Rajaa El-Ameen